Everyone wants to seduce, or to be seduced, at some point. For some, the ability to seduce another comes naturally, and is as effortless and intuitive as breathing. For others, the art of seduction is learned, often through trial and error.

When boiled down, seduction occurs at the intersection of emotion, intellect, and intuition—where every sense is met positively. For some, seduction can begin simply with a smile, or a look. For others, seduction is much more intellectual, and is achieved through the spirited back and forth of thoughtful discussion and verbal connection.

Given the multifaceted nature of seduction, success in this field cannot be stripped down to one simple strategy or script; it requires a deep understanding of the human psyche and an ability to adapt to the unique person you are attempting to seduce. You must be able to tap into the idiosyncratic desires, both conscious and unconscious, of the person you wish to seduce, and speak directly to those desires.

And, not only must you speak to those desires, but you must do so while coming from a place of authenticity, rather than putting on a pretty mask merely to get your chosen outcome. While you may be able to achieve a thin veneer of seduction by simply deceiving the person on the receiving end, this will be short-lived and hollow. You must find a way to truly connect with the person on the other end of your seduction efforts, or your efforts will be in vain.

For most, the best way to learn how to seduce, or to authentically connect with others, is through exposure. If you find yourself struggling with interpersonal skills or lacking charisma or seductive prowess, place yourself into situations where you have a high exposure to a wide array of different personalities and demographics. Don’t just limit yourself to the sex or gender you are attracted to, instead, try to learn the inner machinations of people from all walks of life.

Read more