Simple Ways to Relight the Spark in Bed.

Whether you’ve been in your current relationship for a few years or a couple of months, boredom has just as much potential to strike in the bedroom. Boredom could come from sticking to a routine, a lack of communication and intimacy, and even the fact that you are having sex in the same environment every time.

Boredom in the bedroom isn’t something you want in a relationship. It will not take long for the spark between the two of you to die down. To relight that spark and make things interesting again, here are some of the things you can try.

Get Out of the Bedroom

Sometimes, a change in environment is all you need. Why not surprise your partner with a passionate kiss as he or she walks through the door or is doing things in the kitchen? Any part of the house is as fun of an environment as it can be if you know how to utilize the things around you for maximum pleasure.

You can also choose to create the right environment; a new one. Be a romantic for a change and spread rose petals around the living room. Use scented candles to set the mood and play around with lighting to fully alter the ambiance of the environment.

Changing the environment is a very simple thing to do, but it is still powerful enough to light up the old spark again. You will find lovemaking sessions to be more passionate than ever before.

Play with Toys

Bringing toys to the bedroom isn’t a bad – or taboo – thing to do. I know many couples try to avoid resorting to toys, but there is a lot of great things you can do with the right toys and some extra equipment in the bedroom.

A kinky way to spice things up is by using adult sex toys for men and women to pleasure each other. Get creative with how you use the tools you have and push things to the limit. Don’t worry about awkwardness; it will disappear as soon as the two of you start to play around with each other.

You don’t need to worry about toys causing the spark to disappear completely either. The goal of bringing toys to the bedroom is allowing you and your partner to explore. If you can do it with toys, you can do it with other kinky ideas too.

Set the Mood

While most couples focus on the things they do in the bedroom when thinking about relighting the spark, there are actually so much more you can do. Sex is a complex experience, and the things you do outside of the bedroom can influence the sensations you get (and give) too.

Try setting the mood by doing things for your partner. Cook or send short texts to really tease your partner. Build the anticipation while you are away and keep teasing until you return. You are setting up the perfect explosion and the setup is important indeed. The rest will happen exactly as you imagine.

One Response to Simple Ways to Relight the Spark in Bed

Anonymous at 30 June, 2018 08:03 #

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Firstly, you must realise that you need to be happy. That’s happy with yourself, who you are and what you do. Often relationship breakdown or relationship staling starts with our own failings. A woman will pick up on a lack of ambition, a lack of personal care, a lack of drive, a lack of our own happiness and she will start to feel like she can do better. (This of course, works both ways).

The next thing to realise is that every woman wants to feel special, valued, attractive and treasured. There’s not a woman on this site, nor in the world who will put up with rudeness, selfishness, abusive controlling behaviour or unfaithfulness. Thus, the way to a woman’s heart, and thus her pussy, is not just through sex toys, setting the mood or changing the environment for sex, it’s mostly about changing your attitude. Why would any woman want to have sex if you treat her like shite?

Getting regular sex is actually making regular love. That deep bond that happens between men and women comes through one thing and one thing only. It’s encapsulated in what I believe true, unconditional and everlasting love is: ALWAYS PUTTING THE OTHER PERSON FIRST. If you think about the other person’s needs before you’re own sex becomes the fulfilment of the love you share. This goes in the bedroom too. Focus on your woman and what she enjoys not on your own gratification. Then, when she sees your eagerness to please she will do anything to please you.

None of this needs to be difficult or expensive. Women love men who pay interest in them. People often wander because someone takes an interest in them. If you simply ask your woman “how was your day?” and then don’t engage with and propagate the responses you’re not succeeding in keeping your woman happy. Making a cup of tea or coffee without being asked (for her not you!) or leaving little notes telling her of your love or admiration for her goes a long way. Buying something she likes to eat or if you truly know your woman, some clothes, will build her love for you. Protecting her, caressing her, stroking her hair when sitting watching tv or lying in bed, fosters her feelings for you.

You make love to a woman through her mind not her pussy. Build up the mind and you build up the physicality between you. Make her feel special and wanted and loved and all you want will be yours. If you need to recover and rebuild your relationship it takes time, just as it did in the first place. If the relationship has soured because you’re an arsehole, then moving to another relationship will have the same conclusion. That’s why this starts with you and how you are and how you treat women. If you want to achieve what looks to be unobtainable start by changing your behaviour and her behaviour will change.